I couldn't get an urgent surgey because of Aetna. Now, I have permanent neck damage, and I lost my job/house/car

I worked for a company called Avery Dennison. I had Aetna insurance for 15 years. I needed neck surgery which they paid for. They were aware I needed a second surgery. They refused to pay for the second surgery. I had bulging discs in my neck with a bone that was growing around my spinal column. I couldn’t feel my legs. Christopher Furey, head neck and spine Doctor, also a Professor of Medicine, said I needed this surgery urgently. I submitted my MRI with doctor’s notes and was denied. As a direct result of that, I couldn’t get the surgery done. I lost my job, house, car. Displaced two days before Christmas. I have permanent nerve damage in my neck and arms. Pain (awful). What they did was ruin my life. Help me. If there is mercy on this planet I beg of you to point me in a direction. I have a child. My wife and I divorced after 21 years together. Her back was injured. She couldn’t get treatment, because I lost my insurance. Her life is ruined. They should be held accountable for their mistakes. I have all MRIs on disc. All doctor’s notes on surgeries. I need an attorney. I’m also a diabetic. I have read the comments of the people above. OMG!!! DENY-DELAY-DEFEND. I am horrified!!!